Most parents don't pick a parenting style. But that's why being a 'conscious parent' matters
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Monday, June 19, 2023
This is the second season of the show that pits 12 sets of parents with very different parenting styles against each other to work out which is “best”.
Key Points:
- This is the second season of the show that pits 12 sets of parents with very different parenting styles against each other to work out which is “best”.
- Then there are parents who adopt an “unstructured style”, which prioritises a child’s own decisions and mental health over “conventional measures of success”.
Approaches to parenting
- Research shows parenting is one of the greatest contributors to child and adolescent development and wellbeing.
- Most parenting approaches fall under one of four main approaches: 1. neglectful: these parents do not show enough love or interest in the child, or set boundaries around behaviour.
- The 2023 Australian Childhood Maltreatment Study found about 8.9% of surveyed Australians aged over 16 had experienced neglect as children.
- This approach has been linked to children lacking resilience, doing worse in school and struggling to control their impulses.
Falling into a style
- But while many parents view parenting as central to their lives, they often don’t make a conscious choice about their parenting style.
- They tend to fall into a style because of how they were parented, their culture, personality, family size, education level and religion.
It is important to be conscious about parenting
- So, while most of us won’t actively “choose” a parenting approach and may use combinations of approaches, it is important to be conscious of how you are parenting.
- Being a conscious parent means being mindful and aware of who you are as a parent.
- This allows you you to react in more helpful ways while ensuring your needs as a parent are also met.
Be consistent but adapt
- But while parenting needs to be consistent (so kids know what to expect), this does not mean you can’t or should not adapt your style to the circumstances.
- For one thing, it will likely alter as your child grows.
- Just keep thinking about what your family needs are and how your choices are fitting in with your parenting goals.